Why We Get Stuck and Why Real Change Always Starts Within
Hello amazing YOU,
Have you ever noticed how deeply we long to changeâŚ
and how easily we fall back into the same patterns?
Not because we donât want better.
Not because weâre lazy or incapable.
But because something deeper is at play.
There is a natural movement in life: from contraction to expansion, from fear to love, from low to high.
And yet⌠crossing that threshold can feel strangely difficult.
Today I want to speak into why.
The Path of Least Resistance (and Why It Pulls Us Back)
Life follows energy... It's the law of Nature...
Your system: body, nervous system, mind, emotions... is designed to conserve energy. It will always choose what is most familiar, not what is most evolved.
This is what science calls the path of least resistance.
And spiritually, it is simply this: we return to what we know.
Even when what we know hurts.
Even when what we know limits us.
Even when a deeper truth inside is whispering: There is moreâŚ
So when you try to change your life from the outside: new habits, new goals, new behaviours, but your inner identity remains the same⌠the old gravity pulls you back.
Not because you failed. But because you were trying to move against your own energetic foundation.
Why Change Feels So Hard
Most people believe they are stuck because something is âwrongâ with them. But thatâs not the truth. Whatâs actually happening is this:
Your identity = the way you see yourself, the story you live from has energy behind it. It has history, memory and protection.
And when you try to change without first meeting that identity with awareness and compassion, your system experiences it as danger.
So it tightens. It resists. It returns you to the known.
This is why people fall back.
This is why growth feels like two steps forward, one step back.
This is why âtrying harderâ rarely works.
Because you canât outwork an identity.
We Canât Change What We Secretly Believe We Are
Here is a gentle but profound truth:
You cannot raise your vibration while secretly believing you are broken, dark, dangerous or âtoo much.â
You cannot fight your demons if somewhere inside you still feel like one.
And most shadow work isnât about removing darkness at all.
Your shadow sides are not monsters.
They are parts of you that simply havenât yet been seen in the light.
Parts that learned to protect. Parts that adapted. Parts that carried pain, fear or shame when no one else could.
Trying to get rid of them only deepens the split.
Integration is what raises frequency. Love is what transforms energy.
From Low to High Is Not a Battle... Itâs a Remembering
Low vibration is not bad. The 3D world is not wrong. And high vibration is not âbetter.â
Low vibration is contraction: protection, survival, separation.
High vibration is expansion: trust, openness, connection.
They are not enemies. They are movements of energy within the same living field. And the movement from one to the other does not happen through force. It happens through recognition.
We have to be it to see it.
This is why energy comes first.
This is why awareness precedes action.
This is why inner realisation always comes before outer change.
When you remember who you truly are beneath conditioning, the system relaxes. When the system relaxes, new choices become natural.
When new choices become natural, life begins to shift⌠effortlessly.
And then⌠something even deeper reveals itself.
There comes a moment when you know... not as a concept, but as a lived truth: that you are a creator within life. That everything you experience is energy in motion, taking form. Not meaningless⌠but not fixed either.
You realise that what shapes your life is not what has happened, but what you make of it.
How you meet it.
How you relate to it.
What you allow it to become within you.
The mind may try to interrupt here and ask: âBut where does that end?â
And that question only arises when we are still looking from separation.
Because when this realisation truly lands, something remarkable happens:
You are so deeply connected to your truth, your heart, your loveâŚ
that suffering loses its grip. Not because life no longer brings intensity or challenge, but because the idea of being fundamentally harmed begins to dissolve.
Pain may pass through.
Emotion may move.
But the old kind of hurting: the existential wounding, becomes almost incomprehensible.
Not bypassed. Not denied.
But held in a much larger field of love.
This is not about escaping the human experience.
It is about inhabiting it from remembrance.
And from here⌠life is no longer something that happens to you.
It becomes something that moves through you.
Why We Fall Back (and Why Itâs Not Failure)
Falling back is not proof that youâre doing it wrong. Itâs proof that an old identity is still asking to be met.
Every return is an invitation:
... to slow down
... to listen deeper
... to include what was left behind
Growth is not linear. Expansion is not clean. And becoming whole means welcoming all of you home.
This is the part no one teaches... but it changes everything.
The Only Way Through⌠Is Within
Real change doesnât start with fixing your life.
It starts with remembering your essence.
When you stop trying to become âbetterâ
and instead allow yourself to become truerâŚ
Your vibration shifts naturally.
Your choices realign effortlessly.
And the path of least resistance becomes the path of alignment.
This is not about becoming someone new.
It is about returning to who you were before you learned to contract.
A Gentle Invitation
If you feel stuck right nowâŚ
If you feel the pull to expand but donât know howâŚ
If you sense a higher truth within you but canât seem to live from it yetâŚ
Please know this:
Nothing is wrong with you.
You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are simply standing at the threshold of remembrance.
And that⌠is a sacred place to be.
With all my love,
Ineke đ
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May you move from contraction into truth,
from effort into alignment,
and from remembering⌠into living who you are â¨
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