There was a time when I believed surrender would come after life felt safe.
After things settled.
After the chaos softened.
After the answers appeared.
What I know now is this:
Surrender does not come after safety.
Safety is there when we stop leaving ourselves.
Surrender is not something you do. It is something that naturally arises
when you stop waiting to be someone else, somewhere else, somehow more ready.
Surrender is rooted presence.
And it returns naturally
when you embody all of you.
I am no longer waiting for life to calm down before I trust it.
I am no longer orienting myself toward fear, instability or the next unknown.
And I know I’m not alone in this. Something is changing, not just in me,
but in many of us.
A quiet shift from bracing… to staying.
From leaving ourselves when things get intense… to remaining present.
From fighting what is… to softening inside it.
From opening and then losing ourselves… to opening while staying rooted.
What’s emerging now is something different.
The ability to meet life as it is and remain grounded in truth, not the truth we learned to survive, but the truth that becomes available when we stop abandoning ourselves.
When the world feels unstable…
Many of us feel it. The intensity. The sense that old structures no longer hold. That familiar strategies don’t quite work anymore. The pull is still there, but the shoe no longer fits.
For a long time, our systems learned to respond to this by tightening:
– staying alert
– managing outcomes
– bracing for impact
– holding ourselves together
Not because we were weak. But because it kept us safe. That’s just how it was. And now... an honest question begins to surface:
Has it truly led to safety?
Or to a life that feels held, supported and free?
It's time for something else.
Not more control. Not more effort. Not more protection.
But a deeper, embodied trust...
... Uh... How... ?
What blocks surrender for so many of us
True surrender is not a mindset, it doesn't come from trying harder or doing more... It is a nervous-system reality, restoring safety inside... so the body no longer needs to brace against life.
And many of us carry early imprints that make letting go feel unsafe.
One of the most foundational of these is the Mother Wound...
the place where our trust in life, our ability to receive and our sense of being supported were first shaped.
When the early bond with life, safety, nourishment, emotional attunement was disrupted, the body learned:
“I must hold myself”
This creates a deep inner split, which can show up as:
âšť difficulty receiving support, love or rest and not trusting it to stay
âšť chronic self-reliance or over-responsibility, rarely feeling truly centered
âšť tension, vigilance or nervousness, especially when approaching true desire
âšť shame around needs, often masked by endless explanations or justifications
⚝ mistrust of life’s support, money struggles and patterns of overgiving
âšť difficulty feeling safe to simply be; held by life, by nature, by presence
even when we deeply long to surrender
These are not mistakes or signs that you're not enough or broken... They are intelligent adaptations. And they are now blocking you from something much truer.
Because beneath the split… we are the one who can hold both.
All this can be healed.
🌸 A Free Healing Invitation
This Sunday, I’ve been invited to facilitate a free Compassion Key clearing call focused on Healing the Mother Wound.
In this sacred space, we will:
– meet protective patterns with compassion
– restore safety in the body
– soften the defenses around receiving
– begin repairing the inner bond that allows life to support us again
This is not about fixing the past. It is about restoring your capacity to receive life now... with safety, trust and grace.
This Sunday, January 18
7:00 AM PT / 10:00 AM ET / 3:00 PM London / 8:30 PM New Delhi / 2:00 AM Sydney (Jan 19)
đź”— Join live:
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/87392673439
🌿 And from here… a deeper embodiment
This is also why I’m opening the space for my upcoming retreat:
🌿 Retreat into Truth: Heal, Remember, Embody
Not as an escape from life but as a full-bodied entry into it.
A space where surrender is lived, not conceptual. Where safety is restored in the body. Where truth no longer needs to be managed or protected... only embodied.
At its deepest level, this retreat is about ending the inner split:
between who you truly are
and who you learned to be in order to survive, belong or stay safe.
More will unfold about this soon.
A few of you have already reached out, feeling the resonance. You’ll hear first when the space unfolds.
If you’d like to be among the first to receive all details about my upcoming in-person retreat, you can sign up here:
https://www.inpurelight.com/retreatintoyourtruthsoon
For now, know this:
Everything you’ve been searching for is already within you.
The time for understanding is complete. The true frequency is emerging
and now the invitation is to become it, from within.
I stand here as a co-holder of the frequency, not above, not ahead, but with you, as a channel for the higher path that is already moving through us.
And for those who feel the same quiet knowing…
you already sense it:
The time has come to rise.
If you’d like to explore this shift more deeply, you’re warmly invited to join my free masterclass, where I’ll guide you into reconnecting with your inner truth, restoring trust in your natural power and beginning to live what is already awakening within you:
https://www.inpurelight.com/unlock-your-light-registration
With love,
Ineke
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